Last week we spoke about Betrayals and Healing but in order to "Heal", you must set clear, outlined boundaries on what it is you've learnt from this experience, how you plan to overcome and what will you allow in your future relationships. You have to remember a woman who is connected to her true self does not try to fix or change a man. Her first responsibility is to herself and her needs, as such she is fully able to release what no longer serves her. Stop falling for the breadcrumbs and realize that you deserve loaves of bread, along with all the cake!
Here is a short continual on choosing you.
I Am Choosing Me — Part II: Boundaries
Show a man you'll stay through anything,
and he will surely put you through everything.
He will test the limits of your forgiveness,
weaponize love to abuse your loyalty,
and take the softest parts of you—
the nurturing, the patience, the unconditional belief—
and twist them into reasons to believe
you’ll never leave.
He convinces himself your heart is a safety net,
not a gift.
And when someone believes you’re not going anywhere,
they stop being careful with your soul.
But not anymore.
This is where you draw the line.
This is where the version of you that tolerated silence,
begged for honesty,
waited for change—ends.
Forgiveness is one thing, but you have to have boundaries.
Because now you see it:
Unconditional love is not unconditional suffering.
And boundaries are not barriers to love,
they are proof of it.
From now on—
You will not beg for communication.
You will not chase honesty.
You will not shrink yourself to keep someone comfortable
in their lies, or half-truths, or ego-driven delusions.
If you have to lose them to keep you,
then you choose you—every time. You heard right- Choose You!
The version of you who stayed too long?
She’s not weak—she just loved hard.
But the version standing here now?
She loves herself harder. She sees herself now.
And that means: No more excuses.
No more blurred lines.
No more giving access to people who mishandled your heart.
From here on out, your boundaries are sacred.
Your peace is non-negotiable.
And your worth is not up for debate.
This time,
you stay true to you. And only YOU.
Signed: Anonymous